Life Snaps into Focus

2025 - NL #14

Hello Friends -

I thought I would talk off topic today, about how life seems to snap into focus when there’s a life-changing event, a tragedy like the lives lost in the Texas flood, or a birthday.

As a young child, I thought I’d live forever. I used to be extremely shy, but as I got older, I found more of my voice. When my mom encouraged me to write, and my dad told stories, I tried writing stories, and I loved it. I speak best through writing.

In my twenties through forties, I facilitated yahoo and meetup groups for adults. I felt seen, and I shined. My purpose was to uplift people through inclusion while also helping them to feel seen. It worked, and it made me so happy. Life seemed endless.

Later, I lost a few people that were near and dear to me, and that gave me pause. I thought more about life and death. Then I met Lawrence, now my partner of six years, whom I thank God for every day. I love my family and friends, and I’ve met some authors and readers whom I also appreciate.

When someone dies, it’s like time stops, and memories come rushing back. My favorite uncle just passed unexpectedly a week ago today. As I grieve this big loss, I realize that among other things, his home harbors our memories. Still, life moves, and it doesn’t stop for us to grieve the people we lose.

Life is short, and my circle of love is shrinking. As my life snaps into focus more each day, I’m reminded how important it is to tell those we love how much we appreciate them. This is the gift I have from my uncle’s passing. He always told me how much he loved me.

We carry these moments of light, and they are forever imprinted on our hearts.

This lovely picture was taken by my mom, and the flowers are from her garden.